All who have been through divorce know the pain and need the healing power and hope that comes from the Atonement. That healing power and that hope are there for them and also for their children. Now I speak to married people, especially to any who may be considering divorce. I strongly urge you and those who advise you to face up to the reality that for most marriage problems, the remedy is not divorce but repentance. Often the cause is not incompatibility but selfishness. The first step …
July 12th, 2009 at 3:01 pm
This principle is true: “…you will not be denied the blessings of eternal family relationships if you love the Lord, keep His commandments, and just do the best you can.”
July 13th, 2009 at 1:49 am
I never found the right man 4 times is enough . Its lonely but i will go on alone !
July 13th, 2009 at 11:47 am
Finding the right man come from within. If you strive for faith, integrity, worthiness, sacrifice, dignity, strength, and virtue, youneed not worry about the right man. It isnt enough to be nice; it isnt enough that he is handsome; you have to find a man who shares these qualities with you. You cant quit and say you’ve tried, when there are lacking qualities in each of us. Strive to be like Christ, search His Kingdom, and whatever blessings that come from it, shall be for your benefit.
July 13th, 2009 at 3:35 pm
While there are certainly some marriages that are not fixable I continue to believe in the message of reformation and repentance Elder Oaks discusses. Those of us on the edge of divorce need to do all we can to salvage our marriages. I am speaking from personal experience as one who is on the edge of the dark abyss with eternal consequences we call divorce.
July 14th, 2009 at 7:46 am
Elder Oaks is one of my favorite apostle. THis is the message I needed to hear tonight.
July 14th, 2009 at 8:02 pm
what is that feeling like? The happiest you have ever been ? My wife has been cheating on me and still continues to do it and says that she has never been happy but yet she has had 7 kids in 11 years and was married in the Temple….We decided today that we need to be away from each other…I’m scared but I know I will be happier if I just cut my losses and practice being happy, she too has a mental illness that she wont get checked on…I deserve to be happy !
July 14th, 2009 at 10:39 pm
You do deserve to be happy. These decisions are so hard. I am struggling making decisions about my marriage and especially the effect on our children. I have a few good friends who think it might have been more beneficial to have grown up with separated parents than those that stay in a situation worse than divorce. It still doesn’t make the decision any easier.
July 15th, 2009 at 3:27 pm
WHere did you get that quote? My friend really needs it
Thank you
July 15th, 2009 at 4:11 pm
I can’t wait till I’m married. I’m going to treat my wife like a queen!
July 15th, 2009 at 6:16 pm
Thank you for another great video.
July 16th, 2009 at 12:17 am
Very valuable message!
July 16th, 2009 at 2:33 pm
It comes from this video, towards the end.
July 16th, 2009 at 6:56 pm
Its true as soon as you stop being in denial in your head pride just melts into joy, and admitted failure becomes happiness instantly with atonement because honesty is so much easier!
July 16th, 2009 at 6:57 pm
In the Mormons church what are their views on couples who divorce and break the vows of marriage.. I mean I understand your committed to love each other, but you dont what the future holds and staying with each other when your both miserable doesnt seem right.
July 17th, 2009 at 2:01 pm
little things can break up a marriage like not wanting to communicate, lack of respect, and not doing things together. above all, if you don’t rely on God to help your marriage, it won’t work. my wife and i are married. we go through many rough times with each other. i have to pray and ask God for help all the time. but it’s worth it. i truly love her and will do anything to make this marriage work. but it’s quite challenging.
July 18th, 2009 at 2:25 am
divorce happens in the church just like anywhere else, I think this video answered your question already stating that abuse and betrayal is worse than divorce. There are some cases when divorce is the best option.
The idea is to try the find the way to make the marriage work and happy again.
July 18th, 2009 at 10:40 am
If the people in the marriage are unable to fix it (or unwilling) then divorce is a last resort. Such examples that divorce would be expeident might include a man being unfaithful to his wife (aka cheating on her); that in itself doesn’t always mean you should divorce but only if the man doesn’t wish to repent of his wrongdoing or continues to be unfaithful. To sum it up, divorce should be used at last resort, but being confimed in pray by the Holy Ghost.
July 20th, 2009 at 1:32 am
I’m not trying to imply anything, but as an LDS member I would have liked to see the gentleman at the beginning at the video have an opportunity to read his scriptures too.
I’m probably going to get flamed, and I’m not going to respond to such. It’s just my 2 cents…
July 22nd, 2009 at 2:30 pm
it should be the last option, but is permited.
July 22nd, 2009 at 2:32 pm
just make sure she will be able to do the same,.. becouse I am sure you will be a good husbend,.. find a good wife who can know how to return!
July 22nd, 2009 at 8:34 pm
very good video
July 30th, 2009 at 3:01 am
Marriage and divorce are between 2 spouses and the Lord. And so we can generalize to some extent but each marriage is unique and it is up to the Lord to judge the people involved.
Not other people. Only the Lord has the facts. Sometimes good people just cannot do what needs to be done due to prior abuse, PTSD, etc. We don’t know.
It is simply up to us to love the members of our congregation and leave the judging to the Lord or His appointed servants.
Good luck to everyone!
August 5th, 2009 at 1:13 am
Awesome video! very inspiring…Thankyou
August 11th, 2009 at 3:16 pm
I pray that couples does not need to go thro a divorce as it is not a solution to a problem. Selfisness and bad advice often leads to breakdown of a marriage. The pain of a divorce is deep and it scars
August 20th, 2009 at 8:46 pm
I’m thankful for the temple and temple marriage, my wife of 43 years, and all other blessings I’ve received including children. It isn’t always easy, but it is worth it, and I look forward to retirement with my eternal companion. I wish I’d not taken 30 of those years to find the gospel.